Hello Loves! Welcome to Day 3 of Bible Journal with Deb the friendship series. So what’s the first thing you think of when you think of your closet friend? Strength, laughter, loving, kind, giving, calmness, gentleness? Those are just some of the things that come to mind about my dearest friend.
Have you ever said something that friend says, and think to yourself, “ah, Mary always says that.” and smile? Or there can be an opposite effect too, like a bad habit. Maybe little harmless ones are ok like picking your nail, twirling a piece of hair around your finger etc. . . . I think. But it’s the habits that cause others grief, you know that ones that you later wonder if you should have done. Well, today we’ll discuss a verse that is a great lesson for picking our friends.
Bible Journal with Deb
Proverbs 13:20 (NIV) reads like this:
Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.
Now let’s look at it in another translation like ESV. It reads like this: Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.
What message is God giving us in this verse, and how does it pertain to friendships? Even if we are all in the same room, reading the same translation we are all going to get a little something different from the verses we read. But most likely it will be a very similar variation. Let’s break it down a little, shall we?
Proverbs 13:20 and How it pertains to Friendship.
The first part of the verse reads, Walk with the wise and become wise. Clearly God is telling us that when we hang out with wise people, we learn wise things. Pretty self-explanatory, at least the first part. But then we have the last part of the verse, “for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Does it mean that when we hang out with fools we are going to get hurt? Why, yes it does.
So it’s safe to say that a Godly way to choose a friend, is by picking wise ones versus picking a foolish one. Like I mentioned above, we pick up habits from our friends. If we’re hanging out with a friend that teaches us wise things, those things will eventually wear off on us. But if we are hanging out with a “foolish” friend that doesn’t always make good choices, guess what happens? Yep, you guessed it we will eventually pick up on their habits too.
more on the verse
I believe God is directly telling us that when it comes to “friendships” make sure we are picking them wisely. Our friends should compliment us as well us them. This means that if I am the one to jump before thinking, with a wise friend they will slow me down. But the foolish one might say, hey let me jump first.
One thing to remember even though God sends us people, it doesn’t mean we are supposed to pick each one as a friend. Many are sent our way for us to lead them, while other times it’s for them to lead us. But don’t let a fool lead you, either way, God gives us free-will and will never take that away from us. That’s why he also gives us the Bible so that we can learn Godly ways and make the right choices. Did God tell you something different? What was it?
Bible Journal with Deb – My Foolish Friendship Story
There was a time when I’d choose friends that probably fit in the latter part of the verse. This has always been referred to as my reckless stage, I was a young mother around 27 yrs. old. Wait, let me mention that I had already spent the last 13 years being a mom to 4 children. I guess it finally hit me and I went a little reckless. I am not proud of it by no means, but it goes to prove how much Proverbs 13:20 teaches us.
So, I had this good friend for the most part. She was, supportive, kind, giving, we had fun together. We picked up good things from one another then, not so good things.
She eventually got me drinking alcohol while out for lunch, driving back to work, bringing the alcohol back and drinking it at work. Ugh! Thinking about it now I feel like the fool. I have despised people that constantly drank and I found myself doing it 4 days a week, for 3 months. Did I mention that we did this at work too? Foolish indeed. Something had to give and it was me separating myself from her. We spoke, but no longer left for lunch together. Sad, part was I enjoyed her friendship up until I found myself turning into my mother. Not then, not now. It wasn’t/ won’t happen. Pick your friends wisely my friends.
My Bible Journaling Page for Proverbs 13:20
I used plain acrylic paint in pink, purple, and white. A Tombow pen for my lettering then finished off with a cute tab and paperclip. I didn’t really know what I was doing for this page. Originally I thought about drawing an older lady mentoring a younger woman. But changed my idea at the last minute, the friend that I spoke of above loves the color purple, and mine is pink. So I went with those colors.
I applied the purple on first just a big splash down the middle and filled in the gaps with pink. I added some white dots, black crosses then penned in the words with my Tombow pen.
Once it was dried I added the tab and a cute little paperclip. I make all the clips you see in my bible. You can find some of them in my Etsy Shop Clover Dew Decor. Check it out you may find something you like.
God sends us people to become friends with, some friendships are meant to last a lifetime. Some are friendships of seasons, maybe I needed that friend long ago to help me see what was really important to me. Maybe she needed me for reasons I am not sure of. It was a good friendship until the end.
I hope that you’ll be able to use Proverbs 13:20 in your life and friendships. By doing this Bible Journal with Deb series, my hopes are to touch as many people as I can. If I bring just one person to a closer walk with God, then I’ve done good in praising God. Life isn’t easy, it’s not fair, friendships come and go. But there is one thing we can count on and that’s is: Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. – Hebrews 13:8 (NIV)
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